Let’s Talk About It
After my video on why it’s okay to be an average crocheter, I received so many heartfelt comments. A recurring theme was that people felt behind in their crochet journey—not at the level they wanted to be. If that sounds familiar, I want to talk to you today.
The “I Wish I Had Started Sooner” Thought Trap
I completely understand the feeling. I used to think, If only I had started earlier! I was over 40 when I picked up crochet and around 45 when I started my YouTube channel. It’s tempting to look at those who have been crocheting (or sharing their work) for a decade and wonder where you could be if you had begun at the same time.
But does it really matter? Sure, my daughter could have had cute crocheted outfits as a kid, but in the grand scheme of things, I’m exactly where I’m meant to be. If you’re feeling behind, know that this is a common thought—and it’s not true.
Are You Really “Behind” or Just Comparing Unfairly?
When we feel behind, it’s usually because we’re comparing our struggles to someone else’s highlight reel. You see your own frogged projects, abandoned WIPs (watch my video on that HERE), and frustrating moments. Then you hop onto Instagram or YouTube and see flawless finished pieces, polished tutorials, and stunning photography.
But what you don’t see is the hard work behind those posts—the late nights spent fixing mistakes, the projects that never made it to social media, and the years of experience those creators have.
Social media is full of incredible talent, but don’t forget that presentation plays a huge role. Sometimes a project looks amazing because of good lighting, filters, and styling—not because it’s technically better than what you’re creating. And some of those “overnight success” crocheters? They might have years of experience in sewing, knitting, or design that gives them a head start.
Struggling with Basics? That’s Normal!
If you feel behind because your stitches aren’t perfect or certain techniques confuse you, that’s completely normal. Everyone struggles at the beginning! I remember struggling with keeping my edges straight, understanding stitch counts, and getting the hang of increases and decreases. HERE's a blog post I wrote about 10 simple mistakes you could be making.
If you’re feeling stuck, step back and focus on the basics. Work on foundational stitches with a yarn that feels good in your hands and excites you. Even simple changes—choosing a color you love or switching to a hook size that works better for you—can make a huge difference in keeping your practice enjoyable.
The Advantages of Learning Crochet Later in Life
While it’s easy to dwell on what if I had started earlier, let’s flip the perspective: learning later in life brings its own benefits. Maturity gives you patience, persistence, and a deeper appreciation for the craft. If I had learned in my 20s, I probably would have gotten frustrated and quit. Now, I have the patience to truly enjoy it.
So instead of thinking you’re behind, remember—you’re exactly where you need to be. You bring unique strengths to your crochet journey that younger you wouldn’t have had.
Final Thoughts
If you’ve been feeling discouraged, I hope this post reassures you that you’re not alone. Crochet is a lifelong journey, not a race. Whether you started last week or decades ago, what matters most is that you enjoy the process. And remember, It's okay not to be a success at first!
I’d love to hear your thoughts—have you ever felt “behind” in your crochet journey?
Watch the YouTube video here!
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